Summer Darkness
Nothing I had done could have prepared me for the next life event that struck me after my divorce. Spending time with people you thought you could trust, to being taken advantage of by two men who had planned this from the beginning of the night. Waking up in and out of consciousness to my disbelief I was being tossed and turned and taken advantage of in more ways than you can even begin to imagine. I asked myself how I ended up there. What could I have done to prevent this from happening? Looking back now I realized that I couldn't have done a thing. Whatever happened was going to happen. Being drugged and putting myself to sleep. Thinking I was in a safe place and in a safe environment to let my hair down. You know have a few drinks with friends. To be interrogated, drug out of the house in front of people you thought you could trust in just a sheet. Arriving at a Police station being asked 1,000?'s. What I remembered. Did I know them, where did they go? I never thought that being a victim of rape would make me the guilty one and need to prove my innocence. Never did I ever think that I would get looked down upon as if I brought this on myself, A woman Police officer at that. I was taken to a nearby hospital, by a random woman that showed up a the police station and escorted me to the trial of guilt,Not exactly fully understand how this all even happened.me. I have no idea who she was. I entered her car still confused wrapped up in just a sheet. I arrived at the hospital and walked in, and they had me sit down on this cold table and wait. never did I ever feel so alone. The looks the stairs and all the questions. Do you know these people, can you describe to us what happened, so we know what test to perform? The fear that consumed me. All I could think was how did I get here? How did this happen, why did it happen to me? I had a few drinks with "friends" I started to feel tired and told everyone good night. I went to bed alone. I woke up to a man taking advantage of me. I passed back out of consciousness to be woken up again by a different man also taking advantage of me. My savior, my sister came and tried to get in the room. The door was locked, and a treadmill was jammed against the other door to the room. When she finally busted into the room I was shaken and woke up and was being asked what was going on. Still to this day, I do not remember the exact details of everything that happened that night in S.C. I do remember, I was a victim. Shame on you Detective for making me look like I asked for this. Shame on you for not listening to me. Shame on you for not doing more. I left that morning feeling broken, lost, confused, and dirty. You made me feel like I asked for this. Because of you, my rapist walked free. The shame and the guilt I felt within my soul still haunt me to this day. The trauma you ask, comes from many different paths. If you are a victim of rape please know that it is not your fault. Please understand that no matter the situation your voice needs to be heard. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out against what happened to you. I never wanted to leave a state faster. I never wanted to go back to S.C. It took me a long time to return, but I did. I had to learn how to listen to that inner voice and listen to the woman inside who felt shameful and as if it was my fault. I heard her! It was not my fault and I know I can not change the outcome, I just want to be able to speak about what happened to me and to hopefully help you find your voice and speak about your trauma. No one should ever be made to feel less than or feel guilty for someone else's poor decisions. You matter!